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About Email Counselling:

This is not a service to consider if you are in crisis or an emergency. Please see organizations that can help you on my web site.

With Email counselling you can take your time with what you want to say and write at a time which feels more therapeutically beneficial for you – either when things are especially difficult for you, or when your mind feels clear, and you feel more able to articulate what you want to say. Or perhaps when you have some private time and space during your day or evening.

Painful thoughts and feelings can often get stuck in the mind and the body which can cause stress, anxiety, depression, physical ailments and other difficulties. Some people find expressing themselves through writing easier than talking to someone face-to-face. Expressing yourself through writing can in itself be extremely cathartic and often a sense of relief is experienced on composing an email, and then again on completing and sending it to your counsellor. It can really help to express in this way what is happening in your life – whether this is something happening right now which is causing you a lot of pain and distress, or whether it is something which has happened in the past which you’d like to work through within a safe and trusting space.

The added therapeutic benefits gained through receiving a therapeutic email from your counsellor can be vast – the validation, understanding and insight can often feel quite powerful. Your counsellor will let you know when to expect an email from them. You can open and read your response when you are ready and in your own time.

With Email Counselling your emails and your therapeutic responses can be available for your own reference for as long as you wish. It can sometimes be helpful to re-read your therapeutic response as there may be a lot to take in and process. Some clients gain benefits from re-reading their emails and therapeutic responses sometime later (sometimes years) to see how far they have come either in counselling, or in their lives so far.

How to maximise your email.

Try and keep to one topic.

Possible questions to consider:

  • What are your symptoms?
  • What brought you to therapy?
  • What do you feel is wrong in your life?
  • Some questions about your history, including your childhood, education, relationships (family, romantic, friends), your current living situation, and your career.

How have you been coping with it so far?

What would you like to achieve?

Therapeutic response:

A full and considered response will be send to you (max.250 words). Allow 2 working days for a response.

Clients often improve quickly when they address the underlying problems that may be driving them to compulsivity and addiction. Treatment approaches are not about repressing the desire for sex, which is a key part of being human, more to guide and control it within what’s acceptable for each individual.

If you feel you may be struggling with any area of sex or porn compulsion and addiction, then please visit  for more help and advice.